Mother Calling

I have read on other blogs and in some articles, where mothers of special needs children have a much more difficult job. That for some reason we are stronger than a mother of a "normal" child. I have both and I tend to disagree.

I think that any mother is a mother of a "special needs" child. What child out there doesn't have "special needs?"

In today's world, there is so much that a child needs to survive that any mother who can guide her child though it with very little harm done, is a good mother.

When I was pregnant with Alison, the Iraq war started. I remember thinking that it was going to be very difficult to raise her in this world today. She has so many obstacles to overcome. Daniel does too but in a way, hers are even more dangerous because I cannot predict them. With Daniel, I sorta know what is ahead of me. He has his needs and delays and I know what we need to do to tackle them. For Alison, her needs are not so transparent. Her difficulties lie in the day to day navigation of this world which some days, I can't even navigate. I don't know how to shield her, protect her, guide her through and I haven't yet met one mother who really does.

Special needs or not, it is all a hard part of motherhood. For my children to be successful in life (and I don't mean make a lot of money or be famous), for any child to be successful, they must have a mother who is loving, and caring unconditionally. That is the task of any mother. That is the task of every mother.